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Anal Pleasure and Health - a guide for men and women by Jack Morin, Ph.D. is a beginner's guide to your bum. ;)

Seriously, it is exactly that. If you've wanted to explore, but are afraid of pain, discomfort, or the "ick" factor, this book is for you.

The book is a very gentle exploraiton of anal sexuality, beginning with the anal taboo and the feeling that this must be disgusting or awful, and the anal tension that results.

In addition to anal tension due to queasiness about this part of our bodies, many mean have hangups related to homophobia and many women have issues around not being "sluts".

As a therapist, he discusses at length ways to reduce this tension and learn to feel comfortable with anal exploration.

Actual exploration of anal sexuality begins very gradually, with simple observation and gentle external touching to familiarize yourself before moving on to using the knowledge gained during masturbation to learn what is most pleasurable for you.

The anatomy of the anus and internal musculature is discussed at length. In both genders, many pleasurable sensations are possible through stimulation of both the external and internal sphincters. In males, additional pleasure may be had by stimulation of the penile bulb (the other "head" of your penis) and the prostate.

Anatomy is important not just for maximizing pleasure, but minimizing potential pain. Understanding the angle of penetration avoids potential problems.

But exploration with a partner does not begin with penetration, but with discussion, which may be the hardest part given our shyness and shame around this topic.

Continued exploration works best if both parties agree there's no rush to penetration. Initial partner-play may involve simple gentle touching externally to begin with and proceed to rimming, with lots of time for both parties to become comfortable before proceeding.

In discussing actual anal penetration, he first cautions that both anal self-pleasuring and anal pleasure shared with a partner should be comfortable before attempting anal intercourse, then suggests proceeding slowly with much gentleness.

Much more psychological material is incldued in the book to assist people in dealing with any emotions that occur during their explorations, and finally, a huge appendix discusses physical health in detail, both with regards to STDs (including AIDS) and ordinary anal health prolems (constipation, hemorrohids, fissures, etc.).

Though sometimes I strong want to cause pain during anal sex, understanding the pleasure and health aspects of the anus is useful stuff. I highly recommend Anal Pleasure and Health to both providers and recipients of anal sex.